Difficult people are people who you have difficulty interacting with. Most of us have several difficult people who we must deal with often Some of the most difficult people I have to deal with are family members. For the purpose of this article it does not matter if other people have difficultly dealing with a particular person or not, what matters is that you have problems dealing with them.
People who are hard to deal with can be broken down into seven sub-groups.
1. Hostile-aggressive: These people are often perceived as bullies. They tend to overwhelm others by making cutting remarks. They may even throw a tantrum when the situation gets out of their control. They may use a loud voice and show aggressive type of behavior.
2. Negative people: They are the people who always love to put down plans as being impossible. They are wonderful at deflating the balloon of optimism. They are afraid of change and express their fear by finding fault with anything or anyone who plans on succeeding.
3. Excessively agreeable: People who are super agreeable often act very supportive and willing to work with you. They find no fault and seemingly agree to do a substantial amount of work, but fail to produce in the way that you would expect from their agreeableness.
4. Complainers: We all know people who complain about every little thing. No matter what the suggestion is they complain about one thing or another. One thing these people have in common is that they never take any steps to improve their condition not do they welcome help in solving their problems.
5. Indecisive people: These are the folks who can never make a decision. They waver back and forth and procrastinate until all the decision-making is done for them. They want everything perfect, which of course never happens so they won’t commit to anything or even state their preference.
6. Unresponsive people: We all deal with people who we cannot get their attention. They will sit silently and not show agreement or disagreement. They simply are there in body only.
7. The experts: The know-it-alls want everyone to know that they know more about everything and that they know everyone who is worth knowing. They are condescending to co-workers or family members because they want everyone to acknowledge that they are the experts. They can even be pompous and make others feel unworthy.
Identifying why you have problems with people you deal with is helpful because you are identifying the quality that you have the most trouble accepting and getting around. This gives you a key to use to work with the difficult people in your life. Knowing what it is exactly that causes the problems is in itself part of the solution and may give you ideas on how to deal with them more effectively.